"The truth, and you probably already know this, is that there might not be any “definites” in life, in defining ourselves. I should probably just write a list of “Things I’m Not Sure About” and include just one item: Everything. Because I’m learning that as scary and frustrating and heart-wrenching as it is, doubting everything really is essential. When we’re certain of things, we don’t have to think about them. We don’t question them. We don’t need to figure them out. And so we never learn if they really are “real,” or just facades of things we once knew and accepted. What we need to believe (and I’m working on this) is that what really matters — the people you love, the motivations that really drive you, what really brings you pleasure or pain — will stand up to any doubt you throw at it. Everything else never needed to be there in the first place." - life: unqualified.